The best care?

So many people out there need that little bit of extra help, or care, if you prefer to use that word. But, what is the best care to give them?

Everyone is an individual who needs someone or something else in their life to help it be a life full of fun and quality living, not just living, but being alive and feeling alive!

What a disabled child, or disabled adult needs in the way of care will differ between each individual, but it’ll also be very different to what a frail 88 year old beds for example.

There isn’t a one answer solution, which means absolutely NO, no way should care homes be the automatic standard solution given and recommended by local (or national) government providers.

They struggle to give suitable support now, and that’s generally for pretty much one age range, the elderly. Who all each have their own needs, even the elderly vary so much. Some people choose care homes, and that’s a choice which should be recognised as theirs to make.

They may feel unable to cope day to day safely at home, and prefer to have the reassurance of help being nearby, and the social goings on, as well as being surrounded by a small community whist having their own private room and bathroom.

A huge number of those who need care of some sort to help with daily life, are of working age, quite a few actually do work in someway, whether it be going to work, working from home, running their own business, or in a voluntary capacity either in the community or from home. Now this would immediately become impossible for most if they were compelled to give up their existing life and move into a care home – bare in mind that there’s no guarantee as to where that place would be, it might well not even be local to where they live now.

Others are unable to work, but still with the right support are able to manage living at home and have a thriving social life, should they be expected to just give that up? I think not. There lives aren’t any less important than the people who are rich and famous, or those who run big businesses. Who are we to say sorry, but your life doesn’t matter.

The best care, is the care that adds value and independence for each individual person. Everyone gives back to their community in some way, whether it just be a fantastic smile and greeting that makes the other person happy and improves their day, or they run a local charity event. We all touch our community in a way, but some just need that little bit of extra time and care so they can join in with and share that sense of community and give back in their own unique way.

Let’s care in the best way as both a community, but also as nation. #bekindalways


OK, how on Earth…

How on Earth do other bloggers add so much content so quickly?

How much time do you spend writing? Do you have more than one person adding to your blog, or use technology to help you in some way?

I can type but to be honest I quite often dictate my posts. This can be trickier if I have a cold like I do at the moment.

What hints or tips can you pass on to a new blogger? Obviously I’m not expecting you to help with the content.

Who to Ask for Help in Public?

♿ Like many people with physical disabilities, I go out without a personal assistant. This is because my care package only allows my PA to escort me for an hour around the shops. An hour isn’t long enough especially when I plan to luncheon with friends or watch a play at a theatre, therefore it […]

Who to Ask for Help in Public?


It’s hard enough to keep fit or even do a workout when in chronic pain and during the winter months it can literally just go out the window. We all know that walking is one of the best things we can do even if it’s only a short walk but during the cold and wet […]


P.A. Benefits!!

I am in the process of getting a PA (Personal Assistant) via Direct Payments for the first time, and this means……

I should gain time, energy, and freedom. It will also enable me to have a more varied and flexible social life.

Quite a few of my friends and family don’t live locally, nor are their homes wheelchair accessible, so the logistics of seeing them, let alone staying overnight somewhere are pretty complicated – virtually impossible.

Having a P.A. will hopefully mean this is something that can be overcome as I’d be able to travel by car and not via public transport, immediately reducing travel times. This means for some the visit could be done in a day – a few hours travel each way would be well worth it.

I’ll be able to attend events that aren’t on public transport routes, or at school times where taxis are impossible to get.

Getting bits done indoors will be achieved much more quickly as I can ask for help straightaway, and not have lots of half finished tasks whilst waiting for help with a part of a task. Leading to less frustration.

Simple things like sweeping up the rubbish pile will no longer be a problem, or filling the printer, or putting on goodness knows how many layers of outdoor clothes to walk the dog. Grabbing stuff out of the top of the fridge will be easy, and not impossible.

When you’re a wheelchair user, you learn patience pretty quickly, as well as how to think outside of the box.

Powerchair Out of Action

On the Southport Pier before the control panel got locked! With the use of a powerchair, I can drive into a taxi, get on/off the bus and cover miles on footpaths to reach a chosen destination without depending on anyone else to drive me everywhere. My powerchair allows me to be independent and move about […]

Powerchair Out of Action

Quality Leadership.


I believe that to some extend leadership is something you are born with a natural ability to do, but can to some level be learnt too.

A true natural leader notices and respects everyone on their team, they care about them as individuals, but also as part of their team.

Leadership requires being able to listen, but also to give clear instructions and advice, you need to be aware of each person’s individual skills and talents and work out who can bring what to the table. Delegate tasks to the most suitable person, but not overwhelm them.

Make people feel appreciated and valued, not only for what they do, but for who they are as a person. Reward people making an effort, understand they have their own lives and be flexible where possible when needed.

Let people know that you notice what they are bring to the group, and praise the good. It doesn’t have to be a major thing even, tell them in person, send them a text or e-mail, or leave a note on their desk saying ‘well done for’, ‘thankyou for’ or ‘I was impressed by’..

Encourage others to ask for help when needed and support them – even if it’s connected to something else entirely, or point them in the direction of alternative routes of suitable support.

Encourage people to learn more if they want to improve their knowledge and skills, provide extra training, and support them with this, or ask another member of the team who is skilled in that particular area if they’d be willing to help.

If there is a problem within the group, help solve it or act as mediator, take appropriate action when required, but make sure it is just and fair, not based on prejudice.

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