Forever in Good Hands: Providing for Your Disabled Childs Needs After Your Passing.

I think the one thing that worries parents of children who have disabilities, is what will happen to their child on the event of the parent’s death. There are many things you can put into place to help ensure them a more comfortable and secure future, but you need to do them sooner rather than later.


Planning for the future is an essential step for any family, but it is particularly important for those with disabled children. As a parent, your priority is to ensure your child’s wellbeing and security, not only while you are alive but also after your passing. Estate planning is a crucial tool that can help protect your child’s future and ensure that their needs are met.

Ensuring the well-being of our loved ones after we pass away is a crucial reason to create a will. This is especially true if you have a child with a disability, as they may require specialized and often expensive care.

It’s important to note that the term “disabled” can refer to a wide range of disabilities, including physical and/or learning disabilities. Individuals can be vulnerable for various reasons, and it’s essential to carefully consider the provisions that should be included in a will to benefit them.

By taking the time to create a comprehensive will, you can provide peace of mind for yourself and your loved ones, knowing that their needs will be taken care of even after you’re gone. Don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance to ensure that your will is legally sound and tailored to your specific circumstances.

Someone signing a document.
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Determining the best living arrangements for your child with special needs can be a daunting task. It is crucial to consider various factors such as financial benefits, support from family members, and care plans. Additionally, it is essential to contemplate your child’s life expectancy and medical prognosis.

Once you have carefully evaluated all of these factors, it is time to create a will that includes appropriate financial provisions. This will ensure that your child’s future is secure and that they will receive the necessary care and support they need.

It is important to remember that this process may be challenging, but it is necessary to ensure your child’s well-being. By taking the time to plan and prepare, you can provide your child with a bright and secure future.

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Quick advance post.

Just to let people know that I have decided to make my blog Mother’s Day and Father’s Day free, as in, this post will be the only one that mentions them.

This is purely because I know some people find those days difficult, and I would like them to feel they can visit my blog and not be subject to posts on these events.

Wishing you all a wonderful week ahead. Thankyou for reading my blog.

Inspirational garden stones by mdburnette is licensed under CC-CC0 1.0


We all know teenagers can be hardwork at times, but please hang on in there. This stage doesn’t last forever.

Show them in a million small ways, that you are there for them, and always will be. Keep showing your love and make them feel safe and secure in the knowledge you’re still someone they can turn to and rely on.

I saw this online today, and thought I’d share it with you all.

A virtual kiss???

Kissing is one of the most intimate things we can do, it shows our love and/or affection for someone.

Just read that a Chinese device has been created to allow people in long-distance relationships to share a kiss using 3d technology. Personally I feel this is a step too far. It could never truly replicate and carry with it the real person’s emotions and passion behind the kiss. It sounds too clinical for me.

Here’s a link to the article. What do you think?

Kissing emoji.

The best care?

So many people out there need that little bit of extra help, or care, if you prefer to use that word. But, what is the best care to give them?

Everyone is an individual who needs someone or something else in their life to help it be a life full of fun and quality living, not just living, but being alive and feeling alive!

What a disabled child, or disabled adult needs in the way of care will differ between each individual, but it’ll also be very different to what a frail 88 year old beds for example.

There isn’t a one answer solution, which means absolutely NO, no way should care homes be the automatic standard solution given and recommended by local (or national) government providers.

They struggle to give suitable support now, and that’s generally for pretty much one age range, the elderly. Who all each have their own needs, even the elderly vary so much. Some people choose care homes, and that’s a choice which should be recognised as theirs to make.

They may feel unable to cope day to day safely at home, and prefer to have the reassurance of help being nearby, and the social goings on, as well as being surrounded by a small community whist having their own private room and bathroom.

A huge number of those who need care of some sort to help with daily life, are of working age, quite a few actually do work in someway, whether it be going to work, working from home, running their own business, or in a voluntary capacity either in the community or from home. Now this would immediately become impossible for most if they were compelled to give up their existing life and move into a care home – bare in mind that there’s no guarantee as to where that place would be, it might well not even be local to where they live now.

Others are unable to work, but still with the right support are able to manage living at home and have a thriving social life, should they be expected to just give that up? I think not. There lives aren’t any less important than the people who are rich and famous, or those who run big businesses. Who are we to say sorry, but your life doesn’t matter.

The best care, is the care that adds value and independence for each individual person. Everyone gives back to their community in some way, whether it just be a fantastic smile and greeting that makes the other person happy and improves their day, or they run a local charity event. We all touch our community in a way, but some just need that little bit of extra time and care so they can join in with and share that sense of community and give back in their own unique way.

Let’s care in the best way as both a community, but also as nation. #bekindalways

Animal lover

What are your favorite animals?

I really am a huge animal lover, but dogs have to be my all time favourite animal.

They are so loyal, understanding, patient and caring. Given the time and care they truly deserve, they’ll pay that back 1000’s of times more over their lifetime.

I don’t believe there is such a thing as a bad dog. A traumatised one, a scared dog, an under exercised and under stimulated dog, and definitely confused ones. But not a dog that’s bad from birth.

It is our responsibility and commitment to care for and look after them, and we need to do the best we can by them. Ensuring they feel safe, loved, secure, comfortable, and healthy.

They really are the perfect companion/friend.

Tess Torjussen: It’s important to demystify deafness for hearing parents (BSL) — The Limping Chicken

“He has a significant and permanent hearing loss”. “He’s deaf”. *Silence* I look down at my sleeping baby and gently […]

Tess Torjussen: It’s important to demystify deafness for hearing parents (BSL) — The Limping Chicken

Is “Finding Your Passion” necessary? No It’s Not.

The latest scientific studies show that “finding your passion” is far too limiting and only works for a small number of people. The optimal approach is to “develop your passion” through following up your interests and working to develop them. You may not be passionate about your interests at first, but as you learn more […]

Is “Finding Your Passion” necessary? No It’s Not.

Jack Valentine.

Here in Norfolk we have a rather unusual & interesting tradition for that particular day (Valentine’s) that everyone either loves or hates! Read on for the story of Jack Valentine…

Jack Valentine was a rather mysterious character who would leave gifts and trinkets on people’s doorsteps for Valentine’s Day, knocking on a door and running away before they’d answer, people would find a gift awaiting them without knowing who the kind benefactor was! He’s known as a mischievous but kind-hearted character, & one which we don’t know much about. What we do know is that he certainly encouraged locals to give their own anonymous Valentine’s gifts, too, so this is a great way of spreading the love!

Sometimes receivers would be pranked, because their gift would be attached to some string so whenever they got close enough to grab it, the gift would suddenly be pulled away – naughty, but fun!

It’s not only adults that were recipients of the Jack Valentine tradition – children would often receive a token gift, as well. Often the givers would knock on the door and quickly run away without being seen (this is a far kinder version of the irritating games of ‘knock & run’ that we’ve probably all experienced, one way or another!)

Two large entwined hearts drawn in the sand on the edge of the sea, water lapping just beyond.

Valentine’s Day.

February the 14th is also known as Valentine’s Day, named after St Valentine. The patron saint of lovers. He is believed to have been a Roman priest who got into trouble with Emperor Claudius Gothicus because of him helping persecuted Christians marry.

Nowadays, however, it has become a huge commercial event for shops to try and get us to spend money. Flowers cost more for this day than on other days, companies repackage products for the occasion so they can charge more.

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I am a huge romantic, but object to the commercialisation of this day. Remember, you can show the love of your life how much you love them on any day of the year, so don’t feel compelled by advertising, media, social pressures etc…. to fall into the trap of buying expensive stuff or paying over the odds for a meal out on that day.

There are other ways to show your love, and on any day of the year.

  1. Always end the day on good terms, and say I love you – and mean it.
  2. Write a letter or poem telling them how you feel.
  3. Pop a random funny love note where they’ll see it.
  4. Even if you can’t afford a meal out, you could fill a flask with a hot drink and take some biscuits or cake and go for a walk and stop somewhere to enjoy them.
  5. Watch the sun rise, and set with them.
  6. Sit and chat, about everything, and about nothing in particular.
  7. Ask how their day has been, and listen to the answer.
  8. Cook their favourite meal, and eat it together by candlight.
  9. Buy them some flowers, or if that’s too expensive then make some out of paper. They’ll appreciate the thought and effort.
  10. Share a hobby/interest together.
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